I have been to a good many munches in my time. Most of these have been very open, welcoming, and usually unstructured. The result was that sometimes these were really great experiences in getting to know a local community with … Read More
We all too often take how we communicate often for granted. Whether by voice, text, email, so much of what we say really does depend on how we say it – because words carry and evoke emotions. The tendency to … Read More
Continued from “Your Kink is Not My Kink, Pt.1” Learning Tolerance Learning to become more tolerant is a practice. It requires not only sitting with one’s own discomfort, but learning to look at how we engage with others. Let’s … Read More
…And That’s Okay… or is it? In a culture of sub-cultures and sub-sub-cultures, tolerance is often expected and part of our value system. It should be obvious that not everyone is into the same thing. We understand this in theory, … Read More
I have noticed a tendency within the community as a whole to be rather label oriented, and yet to confuse what said labels actually mean. Luckily there is also the tendency for the community to acknowledge that labels alone are … Read More
When we’re looking to start a new relationships, we often feel vulnerable, so talking about BDSM can be a difficult thing to do. When we’re seeking new relationships, many are afraid to say or do the wrong thing that can … Read More
Something that happens every so often is the accidental meeting of someone you know in the lifestyle in a vanilla setting, or vice versa, someone in the vanilla setting you know whom you unexpectedly encounter at a fetish event. It … Read More
Introduction No one is born knowing everything, especially social rules and etiquette. We all must learn through what others impart to us, through our self-education, and through our experiences. This is never more true than in BDSM. There are so … Read More
Something that seems to come up often is the struggle some have with being honest about their intentions. Whether for just play or long-term relationships, be it exclusive or poly, this theme comes up time and time again. The purpose … Read More
There are a few misunderstandings regarding Consent which I would like to clarify. All those new to the lifestyle, and even those experienced, would do well to reflect on the below and ask themselves how their choices align or diverge … Read More