This writing on the Four Voices WIthin attempts to address a topic faced by many who are new to BDSM and kink or are re-evaluating their relationships. The essence of the most common question is this: how do I know … Read More
I recently had occasion to explain my views on Risk vs Regret awareness in a discussion, one that I thought was worth sharing with my broader reader base. As per usual this is not meant to be definitive or absolute, … Read More
As people continue to come forward and begin to share their experiences whether they choose the words consent violation, assault, sexual assault, rape or other descriptor it’s important to let them tell their own story/stories and actually listen to what they … Read More
Continuing our series “The Voice of the submissive” is this offering on Empowerment by soumise. Of particular note is how empowerment of submissives and slaves fosters trust and informed consent, which deepens submission in a power exchange relationship, or threatens … Read More
The dangers of desperation are many, but often have much in common in their source. Its my goal to explore the topic of desperation and perhaps provide some tools to recognize it and help fight it. As per usual, this … Read More
This is part 2 of 2 in the series on sub-space and top-space as altered states of consciousness. Part One of this 2-part series provided an overview of terms used and described common experiences in these altered states of consciousness. … Read More
A common question for those new to BDSM and kink activities is about sub-space and top-space, the altered states of consciousness experienced in scenes and play. This post is designed to address the majority of questions I’ve been asked over … Read More
BDSM can seem abusive to outsiders not knowing that THE key difference is that every activity must be mutually consensual. A challenge I’ve seen time and time again is that even those within the lifestyle can forget this simple fact. Worse, that … Read More
The practice of journaling is a very common tool in D/s training. How it’s used, however, varies widely based on the individuals involved. As has been discussed in prior posts, in the BDSM lifestyle there is no single or … Read More
For all the positive acknowledgements BDSM has received in terms of its ability to improve communication, increase intimacy, and encourage greater tolerance, there are times when the lifestyle is ill served by its community. There has been an apparent rash … Read More