I had a great opportunity yesterday to bottom in a workshop for a rigger i respect and consider a friend. The class was his Heavy Duty Suspension class and during the class a discussion about hip harnesses (in terms of … Read More
There are a few fundamental truths in the world. One of the few is realizing our empowerment and self-responsibility in making choices that is right for us. In this world of imperfection and uncertainty, it is upon each of us … Read More
We concluded part 1 of The Nature of Fear with the idea that our instinct and intuition are often sending us fear signals that should be heeded, but are often rationalized away because we also fear their truth and the … Read More
What is fear, and how can we determine which of those feelings are signals from the instinctive or intuitive aspects of our motivation of self-preservation versus those that stem from reinforced pattern based behaviors? How many kinds of fear are … Read More
In a power exchange dynamic, the dominant and submissive or slave need to work out their roles, their power structure, their needs, wants and limits. Both sides of the slash need to take responsibility for themselves and accept accountability for … Read More
This writing on the Four Voices Within attempts to address a topic faced by many who are new to BDSM and kink or are re-evaluating their relationships. The essence of the most common question is this: how do I know … Read More
I recently had occasion to explain my views on Risk vs Regret awareness in a discussion, one that I thought was worth sharing with my broader reader base. As per usual this is not meant to be definitive or absolute, … Read More
As people continue to come forward and begin to share their experiences whether they choose the words consent violation, assault, sexual assault, rape or other descriptor it’s important to let them tell their own story/stories and actually listen to what they … Read More
Continuing our series “The Voice of the submissive” is this offering on Empowerment by soumise. Of particular note is how empowerment of submissives and slaves fosters trust and informed consent, which deepens submission in a power exchange relationship, or threatens … Read More
The dangers of desperation are many, but often have much in common in their source. Its my goal to explore the topic of desperation and perhaps provide some tools to recognize it and help fight it. As per usual, this … Read More